I had a couple days last week when I was feeling wishy washy about my career. I do that occasionally—I get really sure and motivated with an idea, and then I wake up one day laughing at myself. Why did I think that was a good idea? It will never work.
I do, however, think it’s healthy to reflect with skepticism sometimes. It can be the “thing” that helps you realize that you’re really not following your bliss…or it can help you realize the opposite is true, that you’re exactly where you need to be and doing what you need to do.
This time, when I started to question myself, there were a few very specific things that helped keep me on track.
1. One day while we were on a walk, I told my Mom I was questioning my plan, and she immediately responded, “Really? I think it would be a great loss if you didn’t follow through.” This got my attention because my Mom is my #1 supporter—she usually agrees with every decision I make. In general, she has the motto of: “Make a decision, and then make it right,” rather than hemming and hawing over what the right decision is (which means that every time I make a decision, she supports it!). So when she took a stance on what seemed “right” for me, it really got my attention. I’m feeling pretty lucky that I have people in my life who will be honest with me, and even though I usually keep things to myself until I’m “sure” about them, spilling my guts definitely has its benefits!
2. The second affirmation occurred when I got this comment on my blog last night:
Please don’t misunderstand why this affected me—my goal isn’t to be a “hero.” But it is unbelievable to me any time someone tells me that they made a change for the better based on something they talked about with me (or that filtered through someone to them from me). I can’t believe it—I still don’t, really. But, it gives me a feeling of purpose and awe about what I do—I have this set of knowledge and ideas, and it can actually help people make their lives better. Each time someone makes a change, it’s not just another improved blood pressure or weight loss goal met to me—it’s social change, one person and one thought/thing at a time.
3. The third thing that got my attention this week was a quote. I have several favorite quotes. I was looking for a specific one and ran into another favorite of mine by Howard Thurman:
…And I’m happy to say that I’m feeling back on track! The reason I’m sharing this is because I want to know what you do when you start to question your path? When I did my Mind/Body skills training, my mentor would joke that she has a Ph.D. in Self Doubt (but you would never know it while interacting with her). So I know that we all have confidence and skills and we make big life decisions all along the way. But what makes you sure you’re on the right path? Or are you not sure, and you just “follow your bliss” and hope for the best?
I also really just wanted to reflect on how much people, stories, and relationships play a role in my life and my own story. I may have indirectly helped a few people improve the quality of their lives this week, but because I’m lucky enough to interact with so many people and hear their stories, I benefit just as much as they do.
One final related but random thought…
There are certain times in life when we become wildly certain that it is not things that matter in life, but people and relationships.
How amazing that we can even do this through the Internet!
Happy Friday! I hope you’re spending it with people who matter, and reinforcing your passions and bliss by doing things that make you come alive!