At 32, I occasionally have to remind myself that I am no longer a young adult… I’m full-fledged and all, even though I often get mistaken for a college student (which is nice at times—if you look young, people expect less of you. I can deal with the condescension I sometimes get at work because I realize the benefits).
I’ll admit I also generally aim to choose the easy road with the highest yielding results. I am in the 1+% of Americans who holds a PhD, so I also know how to work hard. I worked my ass off for the degree, and then worked even harder to pay off my $30K student loan in 7 months. I’m proud of that. The question now is…what do I do with it?
My friend Catie and I have called ourselves “Quitters” since college—we come up with ideas, try them, and then quit. The thing is, if I never try anything I won’t know if I actually want to do it, and if I stay committed to things I end up not liking, I’m wasting time. I actually recommend the Trial and Error method in wellness too—try things, and if they don’t work…try something else!
Last night, I went to a Christmas Re-gift party, where the requirements for coming were to bring 2-3 wrapped cast-off gifts and to have a crazy hair-do. Unfortunately, I don’t have pictures. Also, unfortunately, I first opened a three pack of Celine Dion perfume, but then the 92 year-old grandma who was there took it from me and gave me some Hallmark candles. Meh.
In the end, I went home with a few candles, a Santa figurine, and a Sephora hair turban. I got rid of two photo albums, a book, some random fitness equipment, a 2-quart slow cooker, and some potpourri. Yes–the re-gift party is a junk exchange, but my friends do it every year, and it’s fun and pee-your-pants funny.
I took this:
Why did I call myself a Sometimes Brat in this post? Because I try things and then quit and I am particular about what things I buy, wear, and eat. It can sometimes come across as bratty, but I hope that I’m striking a balance between advocating for myself and my wants, and not infringing on other people’s lives.
I just quit a position I held as a board member on a local co-op’s board of directors. It made me feel guilty and bratty when I quit, but it did not fit for me—it was all policy governance and balance sheets, and I’m more about programs and health products (what I thought it would be about in the beginning). Given my schedule, it didn’t make sense for me to continue that project so I broke the commitment.
What things have you quit? Does it make you feel guilty?
What have you been bratty about and how do you justify it? I guess for me, I call it adjusting with changing priorities–and it’s sort of like Not Going to Aberdeen when I stand up and say, “This isn’t working for me anymore.”
Do you splurge on gym clothes? I do sometimes, but they get so sweaty and stinky, that I’ve also bought a lot of them at Target and TJ Max.
Also, tomorrow is my first day at a new school. I am teaching nutrition at a community college. I’d love some suggestions about things you’ve had teachers do on a first day in class that you liked. I need to do ice breaker stuff…it’s hard to learn names! But I don’t want to be too cheesy…