Recently, my friend Jessica posted about the topic of Compliments, and it was a great reminder for me. It made me think back to times when people did things for me that were extra nice, or when they let me know I did a good job on something.
It feels so nice to get compliments, doesn’t it? I want to make it more of a habit to just tell people out loud (not just in my head) when I like their shoes, or to let them know their hard work and passion is evident in something they created.
In truth, I kind of do this all the time for work—I’m a teacher and wellness coach. I grade papers and give positive feedback all the time. I make an effort to tell my students when I appreciate their hard work and when I’m impressed with something they’ve done. When I coach, I give sincere positive feedback to my clients, and I think it not only helps their confidence but it just feels good that someone notices their hard work.
That’s all great, but doesn’t it feel extra great when someone gives you a compliment out of the blue? Or when someone does something extra nice for you that they didn’t have to do? Yesterday someone complimented my workout pants—really, no big deal, but it was still nice!
I thought I’d contribute to my philosophy of taking a positive approach to lifestyle change by reporting the compliments and kindnesses, as well as patting myself on the back for things I’ve done well. After all, we can’t forget to compliment ourselves!
Here are mine for today…
When my sister died, I was working on my Master’s degree, and it was right at the end of the term for my classes. I had exams and papers due. My Mom’s friend from work, whom I had never met, wrote a final paper for me. I requested an extension on my work, took a final exam (all multiple choice—I pretty much guessed on the whole thing… the teacher gave me an A in the class anyway), and I turned in the paper written by my Mom’s friend. (So yes, if you ask me if I ever cheated… I did. Once). For some reason, I thought about the kindness of my Mom’s friend today, and it brought me to my knees (in my mind) all over again.
Every term for every school I teach for, the students have to evaluate the course (and me). Sometimes I hesitate reading them because I really put my heart into teaching and I know I’ll feel badly if the students aren’t happy with the course or with my teaching. Yesterday, I got the feedback from last term for one course I taught (and I read it). It made me feel really good that I not only taught people about nutrition but that they also enjoyed it and liked how I presented it. Here it is:
So now it’s your turn…
1. Tell me one thing someone has done for you or said to you that made you feel good.
2. Brag about something great about yourself!